Do you ever meet someone and think something along the lines of “He is so interesting. He has such a cool life and way of being. I am interested in what he has to say and want to hear about all he’s done. He makes me want to be a better person and do greater things.” Etc. Etc. Etc. These people often leave a lasting impression on you, making you want to figure out how to be more interesting yourself.
I’ve encountered many people like this before. While it’s wildly inspiring that someone can leave an impression as permanent as a tattoo, it comes with some soul-searching questions. Meeting people I find super interesting will sometimes make me wonder, will I ever be that cool? Lame sounding, I know. But it translates into deeper and valid questions that spark some self-awareness. Am I proud of the life I am living? Do I feel I can inspire people? Is what I’m doing in my life something to talk about? AM I INTERESTING?
After some observing, I realized there is a way to become interesting, and it is simply by having interests. If you think about it, anyone you find interesting, is so because of the life they’re living. How you live is, hopefully, based on what you’re interested in. If your interests don’t amount to anything more than watching TV and getting drunk, chances are you’re not coming off as interesting 🙂 But throw in some other hobbies, a talent you have, a business you’re starting, an instrument you play or adventures you take, and now you have something to talk about.
People who lead interesting lives do so because they are passionate enough about something that leads them to achieve and do more.
Someone interested in running completes marathons, you find them impressive and interesting.
Someone interested in drawing ends up designing tattoos for people as a side hustle, you find them creative and interesting.
Someone interested in travel globetrots the world and lives in different places, you find them fearless and interesting.
Someone interested in reading joins a book club and ends up meeting fascinating authors, you find them intelligent and interesting.
Do you see where this is going? What you enjoy doing doesn’t have to be monumental. The key to being interesting is having enthusiasm and passion. As long as you care about things enough to pursue them, people will find you interesting. They’ll want to learn more about you and what you do, and you’ll have something of worth to talk about. This isn’t about ass-kissing and worrying about what other people think of you. It’s about allowing yourself to tap into the creative energy you may have pushed aside and to live in the present moment. When we practice things we enjoy, time stops. We’re not doing these things for outside approval, external reward or because someone told us we had to. (Except me, I’m telling you you have to 🙂 ). We do it because it feels good and allows us to experience joy. It can be meditative, relaxing, encouraging, motivating, or just plain fun. What do you enjoy doing so much that nothing else matters? Something you will do for free? Something you do for fun? Something that makes time stop? GO DO THAT!
As a whole, we’ve lost the concept of doing things just for enjoyment. Instead, everything we are taught to do is only for some form of reward or expectation. Take advantage of the power we have within and the opportunities around you. Don’t think you need to have a Nobel Prize or millions of dollars to be an interesting and inspiring person. Contribute to the world by harnessing your talents and capitalizing on your uniqueness. Spend time doing things you love. Continue to find new things to love and allow yourself to get really, really good at some of them.
There is a simple ice breaker that I’ve experienced repeatedly when in groups of new people. It is to state interesting facts about yourself. Do you have anything cool to say? Go out and find what those are. Don’t be a basic b*tch.
P.S. That’s me up there with my arms spread at the top of a mountain in Zion National Park, Utah. The location is Observation point and it is an 8 mile round trip hike to get there. Pretty interesting, huh? 😉