It’s been a short while and I’m sad to not be on here everyday anymore, but as one can imagine, there is a lot going on for me as I pave the path of my island life. I am finally employed, and it is exactly the type of gig I was hoping for. Sometimes I am so calm about not having things “figured out” on the outside that I question if my lack of concern holds me back. But time and time again, my intuition doesn’t lie. I knew having patience and not getting too worried about finding work was a good thing. So I will keep on keeping on with my calm and trusting ways. I’m serving at a bar on a beach in Kauai with breathtaking views, and I get to be outside everyday. The hours are perfect for my schedule and leave me time to work on buddha and bananas (plus all other ventures I attempt to juggle) without feeling overwhelmed. What is more perfect than that? I am toying with the idea of getting a second job in the health and wellness field. Since I graduated from IIN, my only form of wellness work has been writing. But recently I’ve felt a strong interest and pull to apply what I know as relates to health and wellness. Being on Kauai has made me fully appreciate my passion for living well. I want to challenge myself in this aspect by learning more and doing more. Some ideas are brewing of how I can be involved in this field and hopefully something will come of it. It’s amazing what happens when you live your life in alignment. That feeling of knowing what you want and being confident in getting there. I was able to find a great house, functioning car and awesome job within two weeks on an island I’ve never been to. These are things so many people tried to warn me about. Saying it’s going to be “too challenging” or “impossible to do”. Life’s pretty awesome when you don’t expect failure as your fate 😉
All of this has got me thinking about that “L” word people throw around, one word I typically hate using. The word is luck. Many people tell me how lucky I am to be doing what I’m doing. Many people like to tell anyone leading cool or interesting lives how “lucky” they are. But is luck the appropriate word here? No doubt that I feel fortunate for who I am and what I’m doing with my life. I am grateful every single day for the awakenings I’ve had, openness I’ve gained and opportunities I’ve taken advantage of to get me where I am today. I feel fortunate that I have the mental and physical resources to make the life I want possible and know how it is I want to live. I will always be humble for this, but I don’t attribute this way of life to a stroke of luck. The truth is that nothing is by accident. Everything that happens is a result of decisions we make or thoughts we have, whether we’re aware of it or not. Did I win a random lottery that allowed me to quit a 9-5 job and relocate to an island one year later? Absolutely not. At the time I quit my “real” job, I had more monthly bills than anyone I knew my age, and no financial assistance with them. On top of that, about 80 percent of the people in my life discouraged me from doing so. But that didn’t stop me from following my heart. Instead of having self-pity or a sense of “I can’t do it because of X, Y, Z.”, I took responsibility and a leap of faith. This created a domino affect of decisions I’ve made, ideas I’ve had and opportunities I’ve created to get me where I am today. Knowing what you want out of life is shockingly a crucial part in getting there, so please allow yourself to explore this.
It’s easy to create excuses for why things are the way they are than to go through the journey of changing them to be what we want. But always remember, that nothing is by accident. How self-empowering is it that YOU are in control of your life? Let’s tuck away the excuses and instead look at the opportunities. Are things not looking how you want in your life? That’s okay, because you have the power to change it. We all know that the only constant in life is change, but we forget this when we’re struggling. This comforting truth is great to remember when you’re feeling stuck. Hard times don’t last, and things can always get better. Things will always change, but in which direction they do is up to you. It’s not always pretty or predictable to grab life by the balls, but I feel like I’m alive and living, instead of having life pass me by. So let’s all stop confusing personal responsibility with luck. It just takes some mental strength and committed action. You create your own luck. Why wait?
You may want to challenge me by bringing up hardships or challenges, which we’re all sure to go through. Aside from our conscious ability to make choices for ourselves, I like to believe that everything “outside” of our power happens for a reason too. Things may happen that we can’t understand and some things just can’t be explained. For me, the only way to productively cope with this is to believe that all events occur as a lesson to learn or opportunity to take. Whether or not there is truth that everything happens for a reason, believing so makes life that much better. When you change your mind, you change your life.
So when you see someone doing something you wish to do, remember that nothing is by accident. We are all capable of living out our dreams if we take responsibility and just go for it. I promise, the worst thing that can happen, is rarely ever that bad.